***Sometimes I hate humans.... we can corrupt *anything*, make any emotion into manipulation and abuse.
**I am sorry the 'Q' word squicks you, and will try to avoid it. I am sad that you, like so many of us, were bullied for being different
Teasing (like tickling)*can* be bullying. And, its Awful.
--It can also be almost the only way an emotionally shut down person can say, "I love you.".
Almost none of my red-neck kin could give a hug, or say 'those words'---so there was teasing, and mud-fights, and pranks.
It took me Years to figure it out. Now, I can feel a little sorry for them, because *I* think that 'real hugs' and open feeling are better. But I am not going to try and impose My values. Some folks *Do Not Like* or want hugs--and that is their Right. (and, the 'A-frame' hugs my uncles will now give, when my Aunts Insist---are awkward,uncomfortable for all, and just sad, somehow..)
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we can corrupt *anything*, make any emotion into manipulation and abuse.
**I am sorry the 'Q' word squicks you, and will try to avoid it.
I am sad that you, like so many of us, were bullied for being different
Teasing (like tickling)*can* be bullying. And, its Awful.
--It can also be almost the only way an emotionally shut down person can say, "I love you.".
Almost none of my red-neck kin could give a hug, or say 'those words'---so there was teasing, and mud-fights, and pranks.
It took me Years to figure it out.
Now, I can feel a little sorry for them, because *I* think that 'real hugs' and open feeling are better.
But I am not going to try and impose My values.
Some folks *Do Not Like* or want hugs--and that is their Right.
(and, the 'A-frame' hugs my uncles will now give, when my Aunts Insist---are awkward,uncomfortable for all, and just sad, somehow..)
Blessings to you,and,
Good Hunting!
eldri